Classy, High-Value women do things a certain way. Elegance is one part of becoming a classy, high-value woman, but being elegant is not the only thing you need! There are a few guidelines you can follow to start your feminine rediscovery. Most importantly, you have to learn what the appropriate way of behaving is in every situation. I know that sounds hard, and it is! It’s something you have to grow over time, but once you have it, it’s there. By becoming a classy, high-value woman, you’ll find that:
- Loving and valuing yourself more becomes easier
- You will become a kinder person, and kind people receive what they give to other
- People will appreciate you more because following these tips make you a better person
So if you ever asked yourself: “How can I become a classy, high-value sister?”, this information is for you. These tips are for all women who want to be more elegant and classy but don’t know where to start.
Become a Classy, High-Value woman: 10 beginners tips
1. Being a high-value woman means saying “Please”, “Thank You” and “Salaam!”
Being polite is the most important tip. Do you know those people who are just really rude for no reason? People who don’t thank others or don’t treat them with respect? Don’t be like them! An easy way to become a classy, high-value sister is to just be polite. Say things like “Please”, “Thank You” and “Salaam!”. This may seem obvious (duh!) but it may surprise you how much people have lost their manners.
2. Being a high-value woman means being kind
Treat others the way you would like to be treated. That means being kind and patient even when you don’t feel very patient. classy, high-value sisters stand out because they are sweet and kind which is unique in this harsh world. This does not mean that you should be an easy target! When people are rude or mean you are allowed to tell them off in a polite manner. Stand up for yourself and set healthy boundaries for yourself. This way you acknowledge your values and your worth.
3. Being a high-value woman means keeping your promises
If you say you are going to do something, then do it or say nothing at all. Keeping your world is incredibly important because people will always remember the instances that you didn’t. Never make a promise if you can’t keep the promise. Preferably don’t promise anyone anything at all. Tell people that you will try your hardest and that you’ll do your best. This is authentic and doesn’t put you in a tight spot when it doesn’t work out.
4. Being a classy woman means being on time
When you arrive somewhere late, what you indicate to other people is that you don’t value their time. That’s probably not your intention, but it is how you come across. This negative perception will be hard to get rid of because once you have a reputation of not valuing other people’s time, they will not want to make time for you. Being late now and then is not an issue. Being late ALL THE TIME is rude and not something a classy, high-value sister would do.
5. Being a classy woman means being considerate
Have you ever had that moment when you were telling a story in a group setting and someone interrupted you and just started their own story, leaving you with the words in your mouth? Yes? Nothing is ruder! But sometimes, there is that one classy, high-value sister who says “Continue, I’m listening! I want to know how your story ends!” This is what we all should aspire to be. Be attentive to those around you, consider their feelings and empathize with their situations. Not only will this make you a classy high-class lady, but it will also generally make you a kind and goodhearted person! Respect yourself and others and you will reap the rewards.
6. Being a classy, high-value woman means being well-dressed
Sisters, when I say be well-dressed, I mean ‘dress adequately’. What does this mean? Don’t overdress or wear too much make-up. Don’t hang yourself fully with jewellery making you look like a slightly less green Christmas tree. When you overdress, you look like you are trying way too hard to impress others. Trying too hard makes you seem needy and insecure, so make sure you dress for the occasion.
Many women think that they look affluent when they wear expensive brand logos and lots of expensive jewellery. What that actually does, is make you seem tacky. Affluent people dress quite modestly, very stylish, but not too ‘out there’. And they never wear gigantic brand logos on their bodies!
Do you want to look elegant? Then remember that less is always more. Wear the right amount of jewellery, make sure your nails are manicured (or well-trimmed if you don’t like nail polish), and wear clothing that fits the occasion. There is an exception to this rule though. Sometimes going all out when others won’t is just what you need to set yourself apart. A job interview for example! You obviously should not go in, looking like you are going to walk the red carpet. But you can look like you’re the president, senator, prime minister on his/her way to an important meeting!
7. Being a lady means eating like a lady
There are different ways to eat in a classy way. It depends on the culture and the etiquette rules of the setting. I’m Moroccan and at home, we mostly eat with our hands. There is a certain way we do that though. When I’m with my Dutch friends in a restaurant setting I obviously won’t eat with my hands, since the setting and etiquette rules are different. Make sure you know what the correct way is, in whatever setting you are. A few basic guidelines in every culture are:
- Chew with your mouth closed
- Speak only when your mouth is empty
- Eat carefully, don’t make messes all around you
8. Be polite! Take your eyes off your phone
Phones have positively changed the world, but everything has a downside. We have become addicted to our phones and are often glued to them. We check them so much, it’s normal. It is however very rude to check your phone while you’re having a conversation with someone (unless you’ve informed them about a very important text you’re waiting for). Make sure you give people your attention and look them in the eyes whilst they speak to you. If you notice that they don’t extend the same treatment to you, just say “are you expecting an important text or phone call?” This way, you politely inform them that you deserve their attention unless something very important is going on.
9. Being a high-value woman by being modest
This is heavily tied with Islam but is just as important to other people as it is to Muslims. Being modest is a great virtue to have. It is linked to important human values such as simplicity, humility, and temperance. It’s opposite to vanity and conceit, two character traits that have gained a lot of ground in our current social media boasting world. A modest person neither needs nor wants to go out boasting about something. Only insecure people who want to prove something to others go around making a show of themselves. This does not mean that you can’t be proud of your accomplishments. Just be careful how you manage yourself with others. If you want to share something you are proud of, you can do it modestly. Be funny or almost nonchalant about it.
Confidence is silent. Insecurities are loud
10. Being a high-value woman means having great posture
Good posture is about more than standing up straight so you can look your best. Don’t slouch and stand upright, because good posture is an important part of your long-term health. Making sure that you hold your body the right way, whether you are moving or still, can prevent pain, injuries, and other health problems. Good posture makes you look like a classy, high-value sister because your head is raised and your shoulders are drawn back.
Become that Classy, High-Value Sister!
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