Sex is one of the many blessings Allah has given to us, but somehow we’ve made it into something taboo. Did you know that the Muslim World used to be far more sexually progressive than we are today? Our Prophet Muhammed spoke of sex as an act of worship. We now live in a world where sisters are modest, even around their husband! Sister, you shouldn’t be modest with your husband, you should be as open as you can be. Let’s stop pretending Muslimah’s don’t want sex and start enjoying sex. Not only will you enjoy it more, but your husband will also love you for it. Imam Muhammad al-Baqir says, “The best woman among you is the one who discards the armour of shyness when she undresses for her husband and puts on the armour of shyness when she dresses up again.”
The secret to your husband’s heart and his devotion is respect. Sure men crave love, sex and power but respect is what makes him feel like THE man and certain phrases during sex will make him feel like he is the king of the world! Validating his sexual prowess will make him feel masculine, which in turn means he will try to please you even more. Naturally, husbands, want to satisfy their wives especially when they have been so very kind to them. Thankfully, we women have a way with words 😉 So here are 4 phrases that will make your husband go crazy for you!
4 Phrases that will drive your husband wild!
Phrase 1. You feel so (…)
Amazing, huge, good, fantastic, hard, incredible, strong, big or any other adjective that compliments him. You get 10 extra points if you add sighs and moans of pleasure. Try to almost not get the words out of your mouth because your brain is so lost in ecstasy. When you compliment him on how good he makes you feel, you validate his sexual prowess in the moment.
Your husband, like any other man, is competitive. He wants to win this game of lovemaking because men see everything as a challenge. So make him feel like he is winning (don’t fake it, always be honest, but maybe moan a bit more to make him work harder for it.) Another golden thing you can tell him is that you LOVE his penis. Men place so much importance on their penis, they would rather lose an entire arm, than the friend between their legs. If you tell him (or show him) that you love it just as much as he does, you’re going to make him one happy and proud husband.
Phrase 2. Please don’t stop!
Two things that almost always work on husband: pleading and commands. When you plead to your husband “please, please, please” you make him feel masculine, powerful and dominant. These three things can turn him into an animal that just wants to ravish you. That’s what you both want in the end. Pleading in the bedroom is nothing new, but some Muslim sisters hold on to their modesty even with their husband. I’m telling you, sister, you need to let go of modesty in the bedroom and if you want something just ask or even better plead!
Commands show him that you are as into it as he is. When you give him a command to keep doing exactly what he’s doing to you, it shows him just how much you are enjoying it. What husbands love most during sex is love a partner who is enthusiastic. So tell him ” harder, give it to me. right there, please don’t ever stop” and more!
Phrase 3. I can’t stop thinking about you…
Don’t we all want to be admired? Doesn’t it make you feel good when your husband tells you how beautiful he thinks you are? Or that he spends his whole day thinking about you till he can get his hands on you? Telling your husband that you can’t stop thinking about him, that you are turned on by him and that you just can’t get enough of him, is a sure way to make him feel admired. His ability to arouse you is what will make him feel like a king. If he believes that he can turn you, a modest, devoted Muslimah, into a sex-hungry woman who wants him specifically, he is will realise how lucky he is (which he will repay, of course.
Men are ego-driven creatures. That doesn’t mean that you have to tell him constantly but tell him often enough so he knows that he is desired by you. If you really want to make him go crazy, tell him over the phone while he is at work or when you’re at your inlaws and whisper it into his ear. When you tell him outside of the bedroom, you’ll make him hunger for you than never before. Especially when you can be the modest Muslim sister seconds after you told him how badly you want him.
Phrase 4. I bought this for you
Ask your husband what his favourite colour is and then go out to buy lingerie in that exact colour. When you’re getting to the undressing part, you tell him “I bought this for you, I know (fill in colour) is your favourite”.
- He will love that you want to be beautiful for him
- He will feel heard because you bought something specifically for him
- He will most definitely show his appreciation
If you are really smart you can make it a monthly thing (He has to pay, of course, I mean that is one of the responsibilities of your husband, to clothe you!) Tell him that you want to dress up (or down) for him more often and that you are going to ask him every once in a while what his favourite colour is now. I’ll guarantee you that he’ll love it and… you now have a way to get even more beautiful lingerie sets for yourself! Seems like a win-win to me 😉
Your Classy Muslim Sister on Intimacy in Marriage
Sure, Muslims are supposed to be modest but the way we turned sex into something taboo is beyond me! There is no education on intimacy, (I know my mother didn’t want to talk about it with me) which leaves gaps that we have to fill with what hear from friends, school or online. Sex is something beautiful, and I want you to enjoy it! I write about Elegance, Self Love, Modesty, and more! If you look in my Love category, you’ll find more articles like this. Do you want to help the other Muslim sisters in your life too? Share my blog with them and follow me on Social Media!
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