Do you remember when we were little girls and we dared to dream? Those days when we actually had the confidence to exclaim “I’m going to be a princess” and believe it? Then, we got older and decided our dreams were not going to happen because life happens and we all have to accept that at some point. But some High-Value Muslim sister (s) still feel dreams and goals gnawing at them, while we keep living our mediocre lives. It is all to easy to settle for something safe and stay in the comfort zone that keeps us complacent. The higher risk but also higher reward life consists of chasing your dreams and is not made for everyone.
But isn’t it better to try and fail than to never have tried at all? Nothing is worse than missing an opportunity that could have changed your life! That is why in this series, I share the steps you need to upgrade your life and become a high-value Muslim Sister. In this blog, I want to talk to you about what you do and don’t need on this journey, as well as what may hinder you. I stress the importance of having a faith mindset, not listening to rude people and taking a risk in life because the greatest risk in life is to risk nothing!
What do I need to become a High-Value Muslim sister?
What you don’t need to achieve this goal:
- You don’t have to be single
- Or to prey on rich Muslim men
- You don’t have to be from a certain background
- You don’t have to look like a supermodel or be a size Small or ‘thick’ or incredibly beautiful.
What you do need:
- The right mindset! If other Muslim sisters can do it, you can do it!
- Motivation to better your life
- The consistency to work on this upgrade every single day!
I need you to know that successful Muslim sisters come in all shapes and sizes. You can achieve success without looking like a supermodel, marrying into wealth or undergoing surgeries. Beauty is not all there is. Becoming a high-value Muslim sisters means transforming into the best possible you and yes, that also means the physical aspect. But it isn’t the most important aspect of this transformation. Let me give you an example. If you struggle with obesity, you are not at your most healthy. That, however, doesn’t mean that the best possible you must be skinny! The transformed version of you can be skinny, but the most important thing is that you have a healthy BMI score.
Find out what your obstacles are
Now that we’ve gone through what you do and do not need on this journey to upgrade your life and become a high-value Muslim sister, let’s see what some of your obstacles are. Answer the following questions for yourself.
- Did you have people in your life who told you not to dream too big because you’ll only end up disappointed?
- Do you have the mindset that you are not the type of person that can achieve the goal of being high-value?
- Do you think that you need to look and be a certain way to start that journey to betterment?
- Are you afraid of failing and is that why you end up not even trying?
You need to realize that opportunities are all around you, it is up to you to grab them or not! Not choosing to grab them is choosing to live the life your living right now. If you were really happy with that, then you wouldn’t have been on this website! Upgrading your life as a Muslim sister is not necessarily about finding a husband, getting married and having babies (unless that is your goal!). The core of it is empowerment. Empowering you to make the right decisions and grab the opportunities you need to become that version of yourself that lives the life you’ve always wanted. With the will of Allah, you truly can become anything you want. Just put your faith in Allah and yourself, and follow this 3 part guide I’ve created for you.
We may have different goals but still, need the same faith mindset to become High-Value Muslim Sisters
Goals are individual meaning that your goals probably differentiate from those of other Muslim sisters. Some wish to marry a high-value Muslim man and become a stay at home wife and mother. Other Muslim sisters want to focus on their career and love is a nice second priority. Whatever your goal is, and how different they may be from others, they all need the same mindset to work, which is a faith mindset. I talk about the faith mindset in this blog: “How to find your Value & Self-Worth”
3 things that you need to realize before you become a High-Value Muslim Sister
1.1 Muslim Sisters & Brothers can be Mean & Harsh
For the love of Allah, do not listen to mean and judgy Muslim sisters and brothers who tell you that you can’t reach your goals. The Muslim community is plagued with people who expose, hate and diminish others Muslim’s dreams and goals. It is never constructive feedback either, it’s harsh criticism lined with self-hatred and fear that you will succeed. Nothing is scarier to an insecure person than someone else who is bettering their life. Living at the bottom and cursing your success will take up a portion of their day. The hate and judgement you get say everything about them and nothing about you. So, as hard as this may sound, you need to learn how to not care what other people think.
Then there are those that want you to do well! But never better than them. These people may be the scariest and their betrayal hurts the most because they often are the people that you thought loved you. I need you to prepare for them the most because it’s not a question of ‘if it happens’ I can almost guarantee you that it will happen. As painful as it is, some of our friends are only friends because they like feeling better than us. They look down on us, which in turn, makes them feel great about themselves. For people like this, your journey to becoming a High-Value Muslim sister is a nightmare come true. So hold on to those friends that are happy for you and get rid of those that burry resentment. In trading, we say:
“Cut Your Losses & Let Your Profits Run!”
1.2 No one is going to hand it to you
No one is coming to save you, no one is going to transform you into something you are not, and no one is your ticket to becoming a high-value Muslim sister. You are not a princess who needs to be saved, you are a feminine sister who knows what life she wants and is going to actively work towards that life. Being proactive is a masculine trait, and every feminine sister knows that you need both Ying and Yang, masculine and feminine, to become the best version of yourself. The hardest part of this journey is consistency. You need to realize that this isn’t something you follow and then you’re finished. You work on it. Every. Single. Day
Bettering yourself is not for the faint of heart or quitters. Being proactive in reaching your goals means not letting your life be up to others. If you don’t want to become a doctor then tell your parents: “I’m not going to be a doctor”. It’s scary and yes, you may disappoint them. But imagine living your whole Dunya practising a job that you loathe just to make your parents happy. You’ll resent them for that, so don’t even walk that path. Start taking control and stop being a passenger in your own life. Get your driver’s licence, sit behind the wheel, fasten your seat belt, and take control. Deep inside your soul, you know where you want to go. So go.
1.3 Know that settling in life means living a mediocre life
When you settle in life for what’s easy, you settle for mediocrity. There is nothing wrong with that if that is the type of life you’re content with. But why is that only a fraction of Muslim sisters actually get the chance to achieve excellence, experience greatness and become high-value Muslim sister? Here is why:
Achieving greatness means a lifetime of investing and consistency. Not necessarily with money, but with the most important forms of currency there are ambition, perseverance, and mental flexibility.
Most of us have a tendency to play it safe. We don’t take risks, try new things or do things that don’t lie remotely in our comfort zone. Most of us are content being in our comfortable spaces, knowing that we are safe from the big bad world here. That’s perfectly fine if that is the life you want to live. But it is exactly why so few Muslim sisters achieve greatness. So few of us are ready to make the necessary sacrifices to become what we secretly dream of. We can either settle for good or we can continue striving for greatness. Just know that mediocrity is the enemy of success and choose wisely which type of life you want to live.
“Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.”
— Robert F. Kennedy
Become that Classy, High-Value Muslim Sister!
Having the right mindset is step 1 on your journey to becoming a high-value Muslim sister. The ‘Become a High-Value Muslim Sister’ series will consist of multiple steps that focus on internal and mental changes as well as external physical transformations. Do you want to learn more about this topic? Then make sure you check the tags and the category Self Love, and Elegance. Or you can follow me on my social media account to get an update every time a need blog is posted. I also write about Modesty, love and more if you are interested! Do you want to help the other Muslim sisters in your life on their journey to becoming a High-value Muslim sister? Then share my blog with them and follow me on Social Media!
Kisses,
Your Classy Muslim Sister
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