Becoming a high-value Muslim sister starts with the right mindset. Do you remember when we were little girls and we dared to dream? Those days when we actually had the confidence to exclaim “I’m going to be a princess” and believe it? Then, we got older and decided our dreams were not going to happen because life happens and we all have to accept that at some point. But some of us Muslim sisters still feel our dreams and goals gnawing at us, while we keep living our mediocre lives. It is all to easy to settle for something safe and stay in the comfort zone that keeps us complacent. The higher risk but also higher reward life consists of chasing your dreams and is not made for everyone.
But isn’t it better to try and fail than to never have tried at all? Nothing is worse than missing an opportunity that could have changed your life! That is why in this series, I share the steps you need to upgrade your life and become a high-value Muslim Sister. This is the first step on your journey and it starts with the rights mindset.
What can I do NOW to get the right mindset & become a high-value Muslim sister?
Step 1. Know that your beliefs & mindset shape the person you are and the person you’ll become
Have you ever heard of the term ‘belief system‘? The belief system of a person or society is the set of beliefs that they have about what is right and wrong and what is true and false. If you are a Muslim sister you believe that there is no God but Allah, and Muhammad (PBUH) is His messenger. This is the basic statement of the Islamic faith: anyone who cannot recite this wholeheartedly is not a Muslim. Another belief of yours may be that lying is never okay, even though Islam states that it is okay to lie in certain instances. Many of your beliefs also stem from your parents, your culture and other external factors.
To go back to our example of your parents wanting you to become a doctor. Maybe you wanted to become a writer! But your parents believed that that was no life for you, that you wouldn’t make any money doing it and that you would make it if you took that path. Instead, you followed their path and it ended up disappointing you.
Step 2. Know that when we hit our lowest point, we are open to the greatest change within our mindset
Are you at a stage of your life that you feel lost and confused, maybe even unhappy? It may stem from your belief system changing itself up. Your belief system changes due to things external and internal things for example your experience, ideas you’ve been exposed to and more. It is exactly at that moment that your belief system can handle the most change. All these notions and beliefs that were put into your head that you don’t like or agree with? Those are being weakened by everything you’ve learnt and experiences.
So question your beliefs & change your mindset
Expose yourself to the right ideas, the right people, the right environment anything that will help you to grow into the person you desire to be. During this time, you should reflect on yourself, your behaviour and your beliefs and maybe even keep a journal. You can ask yourself questions like:
- What are my core beliefs? And which beliefs am I questioning? When did I start questioning my beliefs?
- Which new beliefs have I been exposed to that I wholeheartedly believe in? What is the source of these beliefs and why do I seem to want to believe in them?
- What am I doing right now that is stopping myself from growing into the person I want to be>
- Which old beliefs do I need to overcome to become that person that I want to be? Who put those beliefs in my head?
- Who am I at this moment?
- And what kind of person was I when I was younger?
- Who do I desire to become? Who is that ‘better’ and ‘finished’ self I want to be one day?
When I say question your beliefs, I mean to question those beliefs that people thought you and don’t fit your current opinions. I’m not saying to question your faith! Or maybe you should, it may just bring you closer to Allah. Again, it is up to you.
Step 3. Know that the comfort zone is where dreams go to die
If you don’t want to live a life of mediocrity, then get out of your comfort zone NOW. This incredibly nice, comfortable space where you know how everything works and nothing is scary, it’s holding you back. This place we call the comfort zone is basically the matrix, a place where you let the world (the computer) decide what you do and you let it happen because it’s easy to stay there. If you want to change, if you want to REALLY change, you need to make an effort. So, I’ll ask you this and if you answer no, you can just click off because the rest of the article is not going to help you one bit if you can’t answer the following answer with a yes:
Are you willing to do what it takes and to actually change? To risk everything you know and are sure of? Are you willing to change your beliefs and become the high-value Muslim sister you want to be?
Step 4. Know that procrastination is the assassin of opportunity
Are your answers ‘yes’ to every question I’ve just asked? Then start now. Become aware of how your beliefs affect your behaviour. Expose yourself to a totally different environment. Join a new community of people. Go to a gym you normally wouldn’t go to. Take a job in a completely different field than what you went to school for? Read books you normally wouldn’t. In moments that you would normally be quit, speak up. In moments where you would take the easy way, make it hard. Move to another country, start saying ‘no’ more to people, stop hanging out with people that don’t fit you. Force your belief system to change by shocking it every day again. Until at a certain point, you’ll notice a new version of yourself has risen from the ashes of your old beliefs.
Become that Classy, High-Value Muslim Sister!
Having the right mindset is step 1 on your journey to becoming a high-value Muslim sister. The ‘Become a High-Value Muslim Sister’ series will consist of multiple steps that focus on internal and mental changes as well as external physical transformations. Do you want to learn more about this topic? Then make sure you check the tags and the category Self Love, and Elegance. Or you can follow me on my social media account to get an update every time a need blog is posted. I also write about Modesty, love and more if you are interested! Do you want to help the other Muslim sisters in your life on their journey to becoming a High-value Muslim sister? Then share my blog with them and follow me on Social Media!
Your Classy Muslim Sister