7 Standards To Better Your Life As A High-Value Muslimah – Do you have high standards for yourself and the people you surround yourself with? What does it even mean to have high standards? And should your standards be different for every situation? If you ask me, I’ll tell you that your standards are there to ensure that your basic needs are met by the people around you. And, most importantly, that you have clearly defined behaviors that are unacceptable for the people that want to be in your life.
7 Standards To Better Your Life As A High-Value Muslimah
1. Better Your Life: Don’t marry a cheap or stingy man
Coming from a family with very stingy men, I know firsthand how awful it can be! Muslim men are given rights, but shouldn’t they first work on their duties before they ‘reap’ those rights? One of their duties is to provide for their family including their wife and so many of them are lacking! If you marry a stingy man, you are setting the precedent for your future daughters, to marry a low-value, cheap man as well.
Some people have a scarcity mindset in life, they will always believe that there is not enough. The opposite of those people are the ones with an abundance or a faith mindset. Those people know that no matter what, there will always be something else. You need to work on having an abundance mindset and make sure that the man you’re marrying has the same mindset as well. That way, you never live a life of poverty or lack. I’m not telling you to only marry rich or well-off men. Preferably you would, but there are enough normal men who are not stingy and enjoy life to its fullest.
2. A high-value Muslimah is not afraid to leave the table
Muslim women are constantly told that we are pearls, diamonds, something precious that needs to be cherished and protected, yet many of our cultures treat us as servants to our husbands, our families, and our inlaws. The irony isn’t lost on most of us. That why we need the ability to say no, to walk away from the table, or to send the food back. Showing confidence and personal agency in this way and establishes respect and shows others what you’ll allow and what not. DON’T let anyone get away with disrespecting you! Because once you do, and once those people see that you are okay with being disrespected, they use you however they please.
3. Improve your life by knowing what kind of woman you are
Every woman is different, which is why it’s so important to find out what type of woman you are. It depends on the brand you have created for yourself and your personality. Are you bossy? Nurturing? Maybe you are very creative or analytical. Whatever kind of woman you are, play to your strengths and try to become a more well-rounded person overall. For example: if you are a kind, mild-tempered woman who enjoys peace and quiet, you may want to think twice about joining a loud-mouthed family of inlaws that want to meet up twice every week.
4. Better your life by not letting envy get the best of you
Envy and jealously are ugly emotions and turn you green in the long run, which is why you should try to not be any of those two. A high-value Muslim woman keeps her jealousy and envy in check. If you let these emotions get the best of you, it will drive your insecurities and result in some pretty unflattering behavior. I have witnessed some horrible public displays because of jealousy and let me tell you, even the most beautiful woman seems ugly afterward. Protect yourself and start by not comparing yourself to others, and only seeing yourself as competition.
5. A high-value Muslimah’s anger is pricy as can be
We all get angry every now and then. It’s part of being human and therefore normal. But anger is a very tiring emotion. It may eat at the person you’re angry with, but it also eats at you. Do you remember the times you got so angry you could cry or scream or actually hurt someone? Yeah, not a nice experience. That’s why we need to change our attitude about anger and anything we can do to reduce the frequency or intensity is, in my eyes, a good thing.
Anger takes a lot out of you. So from now on, think about the price of your anger. Who is making you this angry? Are they doing it on purpose? Is it their goal to make you angry and if so, why give it to them. But most importantly, are they paying you to be this angry and upset? Is your reaction getting your bills paid or theirs? I don’t think so. Sure, you should allow yourself to feel your emotions but don’t forget that you’re supposed to be the boss of them, not the other way around. Next time you start to feel angry, think to yourself: “Is this anger worth my time, my energy, my price?”
6. Listen more & talk less
Most women are talkers. Not because we necessarily have a lot of interesting things to say, but because that is how we connect to each other. We love talking! Which quite often turns into gossiping. The problem with talking is that sometimes we say too much and we end up overplaying our hand. It’s better to be a doer than to be a talker so instead of announcing your business, let people find out after. Some people you share your plans with might end up jealous and will do anything to sabotage you. A high-value Muslimah creates a better life for herself by not just talking about it but doing it.
Many of us (over)share because we seek validation or approval from our communities. We are social animals after all. As hard as it sounds, sometimes, and by that I mean almost always, it’s better to keep your mouth shut. Share certain things with only your 2 best friends and let the rest find out when they find out! In the meantime, while you’re not talking, you can actually start listening. Who knows, maybe you end up learning something.
7. Better your life as a high-value Muslimah by being decisive
“I don’t know”, “I’m not sure” & “I don’t know what I want, it’s too hard”. Decision-making is a talent in itself. Many people struggle with making the right decision every day and some are intentionally indecisive because they are afraid of making choices, fearful of the outcome. I get it. We don’t all have the answers to everything. It’s not that bad if you are indecisive on some occasions. But you know yourself better than I do. Are you sometimes intentionally indecisive? Because if you are, you need to nip that in the bud right now.
As a woman especially, you need to learn and find out what you want. Because if you are unsure, there will be countless others to tell you what to do and want. An indecisive person is an easy target for manipulation. But how do you become more decisive? How do you get that better life as a high-value Muslimah? I’ll write a blog on that soon, so stay tuned! In the meantime, you can read these books shared by The Exceptional Skills.com to help you out. And don’t forget:
If you don’t stand for something, you‘ll fall for anything. – Alexander Hamilton
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I hope these 7 Standards To Better Your Life As A High-Value Muslimah will help you in the future and create some positive change in your life. There are, of course, many more standards to live by. Watch out for new blogs and learn more about how you can improve your own life.
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